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31 Days Of Self Love Challenge (Swipe Left — for full challenge)
Day 1 : What is your biggest struggle with loving yourself?
Answer: I feel socially crippled by being adopted and not having a healthy relationship with some of my adopted family. While some of them are supportive, others have caused pain and problems for me. What is hardest about this though, is the way men have used me being adopted as an excuse to abuse me or be unkind to me. I literally had an ex tell his mother that he was choosing to date another woman over me because her family “liked” her and supported her. Men have judged me for being adopted, knowing there will be no physical threats or consequences from a man in my life, if they don’t do right by me. In a racist, Patriarchal society, the police are NOT safe reporting option for black woman experiencing abuse. Men know that and know if there’s no male figure to physically fight for you, they have a high likelihood of getting away with doing whatever harm they want. This is why I stand up for myself by telling my stories publicly and sharing my testimony.
The 2nd way this has impacted me is running for US Congress in 2016, my biggest hurdle was people asking—“Does your family support you?” Well, in Black communities, often when you’re a successful Black woman it sparks jealousy and fear in others instead of inspiring them to support you. All I’ve known for most of my life is other people shooting down my dreams and ideas—Since Yale, I decided I will build my own community and family of friends and am leaving behind anyone from my past who isn’t interested in my best interests. Sometimes you gotta be willing to risk it all and find an entirely new community.
I am reaching out to theellenshow iamsteveharveytv officialmauryshow drphil owntv to help reunite me with my biological family so that I can move forward with my life and have closure and peace on these adoption issues. Let’s hope someone can help!