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THE ROAD NOT TAKEN As we wake up each morning and rush to jobs we don’t like and spend time with people we don’t enjoy we think, I don’t have a choice. I must do this stressful work in order to make enough money to support my family because it’s the right thing to do. We tell ourselves we must accept the relationships we have in our lives because we cannot change others and this is as good as it gets. It feels as though our power is consistently in hands of others, and we are left to do their bidding.
My tribe is teaching me that in fact we have a choice in all moments. There is no right choice or wrong choice. There are only choices that honor who we are and those that do not. All decisions start here. When we honor who we are, we recognize our limits. When we don’t, we allow others to set those limits often to our detriment. When we honor who we are, we feel those relationships that nurture us, and those that deplete us. When we don’t, we blame ourselves for not being lovable and wonder what we can do to make ourselves more palatable for another.
So if I am doing work that I love but feel overwhelmed by, I must make the decision to honor my need to reduce my stress. There are a lot of ways to do that, but the first step would look like setting boundaries for myself, so I could limit my output and increase my input in order to find my balance.
If I love someone that belongs to another, I could say loving them is right for me so how that impacts others is not my responsibility. With this new lens of honoring me, I would need to look at the ways I’m settling for less in this relationship. As I remember that I’m worth having a nurturing relationship that meets all of my needs, I do not spend my time trying to be someone that needs less love in order to be happy.
Today is a good day to take the road less traveled. Choose the path that honors all of who you are. When you walk this path, you are forging a greater connection to yourself. And I believe as Robert Frost states in his poemthat will make “all the difference”.