16 hours ago
Being a gentleman is never overrated. It never means weakness, and more importantly it never means those that display kindness, honor, and civility are not attractive. Quite the opposite, such traits are so rare in the modern world that individuals that aim to find a true romantic partner focus greatly on those traits.
The false belief that nice guys finish last came about due to the wrong logic that if someone is nice they can be pushed around, do not stand up for themselves, and have little confidence. Therefore, men have to be rude, careless, heartless, and immature to be considered attractive and worthy of a relationship.
However, presenting yourself in this type of negative light means that the people you will attract will be those that are attracted to immaturity and rudeness, which in my personal experience is not someone you want to surround yourself with when looking for a romantic partner.
Therefore, the answer is simple. Act with kindness. Honor. Manners. And never forget who you are inside.