2 hours ago
5 WAYS TO MAKE YOURSELF LESS TOXIC
So these are things that I've noticed in myself and changed over the years and so can you!
1) No more backhanded compliments
If you're gonna pass a compliment, don't garnish it with a hidden insult. If you find a quality attractive or worthy or praise then and only then pass a compliment. It shows that your praise is genuine and not easily acquired.
No more " I can't believe you were able to pull that off" And then with a close friend "Ussey dekha tha kesay kapray pehnay thay?" 2) Step into someone else's High heels
Let's face it shoes are comfy and don't show a person's real struggles but when you step into someone else's stilettos and understand their situation you may be able to avoid an epic starplus saas bahu showdown or giving someone a bitch attitude for something they can't control.
3) List down your weaknesses and insecurities
When you acknowledge your inner most fears and insecurities then and only then will you be able to master the true art of being a genuine and empathetic human being.
4) Stop trying to gain attention
I'm guilty of doing this in the past and so many times that I made myself an uber negative person. I used to stop talking to people, cancel on meetups or even give people the silent treatment because they were busy or didn't reply. That is the highest level of toxicity not just for the other person but for yourself. You're feeding your brain with buckshot and making your actions dependant on someone else's actions .This has got to GO!
Stop waiting for a text or call and try to call more or stay as busy as you can so that you stop checking your phone constantly. Do this until not checking your phone becomes a habit.
5) Stop with the "If someone doesn't like me Imma cut them out of my life" bullshit
I'm not saying you need to please those people just because they don't like you. I'm just saying every time you take. A drastic step as cutting someone out of your life it does more damage to your mental health as compared to the other person who already doesn't like you that much anyway.
Go out with people your genuinely like and be civil towards people whom you don't