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I asked a question on my stories today, and the feedback has been insane. So many women in our community are dealing with family and friends that are inconsistently supportive, or not at all. And I want to give my perspective on it.
My world has been turned upside down since TTC and making the transition to face first IVF. I am a very private person, so I knew that I wasn't going to be open from the start, but the few I shared it with, I tried to make it clear how scary and desperate our situation can feel. Some are great, and give the space I need but check in to how I'm doing. These are the keepers. These are the women that are in the trenches with you.
And then there's the ones that fall into 2 categories:
1. The ones that roll their eyes when you tell them you won't touch receipts or eat gluten that night.
2. And the ones that stopped texting and calling the more times you shared your bad news with them.
I'm sorry that my hardships make you uncomfortable. I'm sorry that they inconvenience you, or make you think I'm exaggerating the true difficulty of this process. I'm sorry you don't understand what I'm going through and don't know what to say, some days I don't either. I'm sorry that me getting another shitty diagnosis for why I can't get pregnant makes it so that you don't want to hang out with me anymore. And I'm sorry that me not being my chipper self on holidays doesn't work with your lifestyle. I wish I could be old me and you could too and we could go back To before I knew my scary situation. But we can't.
It's hard to go through all of this, and even harder when the ones closest to you don't support you in one of your darker hours. Just know that this community is everything to me, and I am here for you in the same way you are for me. And there are amazing people willing to support, and choose to be there for you.
And I repeat this always Just saying "thinking of you during this time" is the easiest thing to say to someone. Anytime. Anywhere. And there's no strings attached.