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A client and I spoke recently about how he feels the need to justify his feelings. “Your feelings are valid because they are yours,” I responded
There is something so profound about being seen; and often, we are a part of such invalidating systems. If you were ever told by your parents, “cheer up,” or “don’t be sad!” there’s a good chance that your parents, being human, helped to create an invalidating system
Carl Rogers coined the term “unconditional positive regard” to be the humanistic idea of basic acceptance and care regardless of what a client says or does. To me, this is one of the most transformative parts of therapy. You can make mistakes (you are a human, after all) and we can both keep showing up together
What has been the most transformative or important part of your therapeutic experience? Let me know below!